Monday, October 18, 2010
How much privacy on Facebook should teens be allowed?
A recent poll showed that 72 percent of parents regularly monitor their kids Facebook profiles. While some may find that intrusive, anyone who is a parent understand the risks of having your kids in a social networking site, where they are open to contact from both friends and strangers. One interesting thing the poll showed was that while 40 percent of teens willingly give their parents access to their Facebook login information, 10 percent of parents log in secretly so that their teen doesn't know that they have logged in. 68 percent of teens polled said they have used privacy settings to prevent their parents or someone else from viewing something on their profile. The question is how far should parents take monitoring their teens on social networking sites? Should they be allowed to exercise total control over what their teenager posts on their site? Would you secretly log into your kid's facebook without telling them? Erase something you found offensive or inappropriate without telling your child? Before computers and facebook parents who wanted to spy on their kids could listen in on a telephone call, or read their diary. The issue of privacy and how to keep kids safe on the Internet & social networking sites is much more difficult now than ever. 68 percent of the teens polled admitted to accepting friend request from people they don't know. Essentially, they are inviting them into their lives to communicate directly with them. As a parent that scares me a lot knowing what I do about the world and some of the people in in. I don't have a child that is old enough to be on Facebook or any other social networking site yet, but the day will come. I'm not sure what I will do, but I know her safety comes first no matter what. I hope that we can come to a good medium because I do believe in the right to privacy but never at the expense of her safety.
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Parents should not interfere with their child's online accounts unless absolutely neccessary. If the parent finds threatening or offensive comments on their child's account then parents should interfere but if not then parents should not interfere.
ReplyDeleteJosh X
There should be a facebook just for parents.
ReplyDeleteThis is my comment.
ReplyDeleteBrandon Lanford
Parents should be allowed to go on there childs facebook. It may be personal information but thats your child & you are doing that for there saftey & they may not realize it now! but when they get older they will understand that you did it because you care about them & want them safe!
ReplyDelete- Brittany
I am a parent of four young children and I myself would look on my childs Facebook page if I saw something I did not agrre with I'd probably make them delete it and talk to them about why I felt it was inappropriate. I would not delete it myself though.
ReplyDeleteAllison
I think that if it's that big of a deal that parents need to go on their pages secretly, then the child shouldn't have a facebook. Because it's really not fair to the child to invade their privacy like that. Parents need to talk to their kids. Not go behind their backs. If the child is old enough to have a facebook, then parents shouldn't secretly go on their pages. Talk to your children about internet safety and if you think they are mature and smart enough to handle a facebook then leave it alone.
ReplyDeleteFacebook is okay for parents if they are looking up old friends or things like that. When older people use facebook as a way to keep tabs on exactly what their kids are doing or even worse, they use it to tell their kids how much they love them and try to turn it into a heartfelt speech in a comment. parents should say things like that verbally to their kids, not in a comment on facebook. That being said, older people have just as much a right to be on facebook as anyone else.
ReplyDeleteBrandon Lanford
I think that if you over 18 years old then parents shouldn't interfere, unless is neccessary. i agree that there should be a facebook just for parents.
ReplyDeletediana mendoza
I agree with Regina If you feel your kids are not responsible enough to have a facebook page you should not let them have one.
ReplyDeleteAllison
I believe that a parent should have an open and trusting relationship with their child. If a parent is constantly interfering and tampering with their child's social life the child may feel that their parent does not trust them. Therfore, it may hinder or cut off the growing relationship the child and parent has. Yet, I also believe that at certain ages maybe 10-13 facebook profiles and other social networks should be monitored for safety reasons. However, if one is raising their child in a respectful manner, one should trust their child enough to act in the way they have been taught. Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it (Prov. 22:6)
ReplyDeleteClaudia F.
If facebook is causing that much commotion in your household, then maybe no one should have one. It's not that serious if you have to secretly go on their page and delete stuff. Doing that would make your child not trust you. If they are going on their child page to delete what they feel is inappropriate, makes you wonder what else have they been doing?
ReplyDeleteTiana
I think its an issue of trusting your teens. If you see irregular behavior from your teen, withdrawal, depression, rebellion, closing down facebook everytime you walk by there could possibly be something that would be of concern. So how far should a parent take monitoring their teen on social networking, if you suspect something (like late night facebooking, I mean at 2:00a.m./3:00a.m.) you have the right as a parent to intervene and secretly log in to their facebook.
ReplyDeleteDonna
I agree Britanny!
ReplyDeleteHannah Long
Agreeing with Diana. If you are over the age of 18 your parents should not be able to invade your privacy. Because at that point you are pretty much an adult! & can make your own decisons weither its a good one or a bad one.
ReplyDelete- Brittany :)
I feel if a child is living at home with a parent the parent/parents have a right to know about the childs activity on the internet is, whether it's FB or just surfing. If the parent finds something inappropiate they should confront the child and explain to them the dangers or concequince of what they did. I don't believe a parent can have total control over their childrens internet browsing, but they need to have as much control as possible. It also depends on the childs age. The younger the child the more control. Hopefully by the time they reach a certain age they will know where to surf and where not to surf, as well as what not to post on FB.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Claudia. If you train your child right you won't have to worry as much as to what their doing when your not around.
ReplyDeleteSure, but when is enough, enough. And children younger than 14 or 15 really shouldn't be on social networking sites anyway. They see their friends everyday at school. The dangers and consequences should be expressed to the child before ever allowing them to get onto the internet.
ReplyDeleteI think that parents do have every right to look at thier childrens facebook account, but I think they should let their child know that they are looking at it and they want to change things on it.
ReplyDeletewell I do not think that parents have the right to check their child facebook with out them knowimg it. I mean my mom can look at mine bt can't say anything about it because i am grown so there is not to much she can say or do, but if ir is a younger teenager then my answer will change because they need to know what their child is doing. There are crazy people out here.
ReplyDelete-Rhonda
I don't think parents should have to control their child's facebook. To me, Facebook is my get-away from my parents. Kids know when something is threathening and if they're scared enough about it, they'll go to their parents and let them know what happened. To me, if the parent doesn't trust their child, then don't provide them with a computer.
ReplyDelete-Brittany Levereaux
I agree that parents should be able to go on their childs facebook page to see who he/she is friends with and what type of pictures may be up because i know that i would not want my child putting up uncessary pictures of herself and then talkin to strangers that she has no clue about except for what facebook tells them.
ReplyDelete- Erica
i think parents should be able to log in to there childs profiles because you could help prevent things from happening and safety of the child is important. but i also agree with diana once your 18 you should have enough brains to know what your doin then.
ReplyDeleteKids should not be on facebook unless they are of age of 18.
ReplyDeleteI agree with AEW
ReplyDelete-Rhonda
I agree, the safety of the child should come first but the parents should let the teen know when they get on their facebook. If the parents go behind the childs back to look at their facebook then the teen is just going to try and hide the stuff they do even more so the parent wont see it.
ReplyDeleteKrissy Chesney
I agree with Kenneth, that hopefully the more older they get they will learn where to surf on the web and what things to put up on fb because some of the things you post or put up on fb can also hurt your reputation or image.
ReplyDelete-Erica
I agree with Claudia. Trust your kids. Let them have SOME freedom and have their time, even if it is on Facebook.
ReplyDelete-Brittany Levereaux :)
I agree with oksana
ReplyDeleteI agree with regina! if the parents dont have a good relationship with their child and they dont trust them then they shouldnt have a facebook to begin with.
ReplyDeleteKrissy Chesney
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ReplyDeleteI think it goes back with being open and able to trust your children on their facebook profiles. Parents will have concerns about their children. Its part of the territory. It all start with being able to trust your
children once you have that established that then your children will be open with you.
Lamitris Sarter
I agree that there should be a facebook for parents lol...but I also feel that children under the age of 16 should not have a facebook, they dont understand the risk they may put themselves in by telling too much information to complete strangers!
ReplyDelete--DYAMOND--
I think the parents should watch what their kids are doing on facebook. If the parents don't care about what their kids do then who will.
ReplyDeletekim sellars
I agree with Claudia. Young teenagers need to be watched. But an open, honest relationship is the best relationship. Otherwise, the children will not trust and will rebel.
ReplyDelete-Meghan
Personally I am not on Facebook. I don't know if I ever will be...I really don't have any interest. I think it is an easy way to get into a lot of trouble. Young and old. People tell too much of their personal information!!! In reference to this issue...if everyone in the "world" can see your childs info...why would they care if their parents can see?
ReplyDeletethe roz--
I agree parents should protect there children from people from the outside world.
ReplyDeleteKristopher Williams
I agree with Meghan that open honest relationship is the best way to protect your children
ReplyDeleteKristopher Williams
I agree with dyamond becaues Kids under 16 should not have facebook.
ReplyDeletekim sellars
Very good point! Trust is very important between parents and children. It also helps a child to know that there parents are not "saints" and that they have experienced some of these same issues that their children are facing today--
ReplyDeletethe roz--
I agree with Claudia. It's always what your taught. I believe that once someone feels untrustworthy it will make them more willing to act out. I was always trusted growing up and was able to do more things because I was trusted. So in the end, I believe it is how you're brought up and what you're taught. Facebook is a way to keep in touch with people you know and if inappropriate things are being put up then I guess it's up to the parents on how they want to deal with it. :)
ReplyDeleteThen again, I don't have any children so what do I know.
Sera D.
I agree with ROZ, ppl really do expose too much of their business to the outside world...and then get into trouble with their personal life...SMH
ReplyDelete--DYAMOND--
Anonymous
ReplyDeleteI agree with Claudia! You want your children to be able to trust and have respect for you and when they feel that they dont have that trusting relationship then thats when there may be many secrets.
Lamitris Sarter
I think that parents should have the right to look @ their kids account if they are under the age of 18. I think that a person should be 18 or older to even create an account. I particularly don't think it's a good site for kids to network. I think that another site should be created just for kids that are under the age of 18 to network. Even though a person has to get accepted to become friends with others, you still have people that will accept them without even knowing them and this is young and old that does this. I just don't think it's safe for the kids and it is extremely dangerous and some kids are putting their lives @ risk when acepting people requests that they don't even know.
ReplyDeleteCindy Kershaw
I feel like if a parent and child has a respectful relationship with each other then there will not be a reason for a parent to have to secretly login on their childs account. There should already be a certian amount of trust in a relation so when the child is of a certian age those kind of issues dont arise. Nicole Crumpton
ReplyDeleteOn Meghan's comment...the whole open honest relationship is nice, although teens are rarely honest.
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ReplyDeleteI feel if teens want privacy then don't put anything on facebook and nothing will be exposed that you expect to keep to yourself.
Cynthia
October 19,2010 @ 4:57
I agree with Roz, if you dont want your parents see it why even post it, and if the rest of the world can see it then what is the point of not wanting your parents to see it
ReplyDeleteNicole C.
I agree with Regina!
ReplyDeleteCindy Kershaw
I have 3 young children and I would surely look at their Facebook when they are old enough. If it was a diary instead of a social networking site then I wouldn't look, but my child could be harmed from some stranger on the internet. I wouldn't be able to live with myself if something happened to my child knowing I could have prevented it.
ReplyDeleteI agree that an open relationship with parents is the best way to protect your children and to avoid all other matters that are nessary.
ReplyDeleteCynthia
I agree that a parent should look at what their child is posting on the internet.The child may not like it but it is for their protection.
ReplyDeleteCathy Q.
I agree with Allison. Look, talk to your child and explain why certain things should not be posted.
ReplyDeleteCathy Q.
I agree. I believe as a parent you are responsible for your child and that includes knowing where they are, who they are conversing with, and their envolvements. Their privacy will come with time and maturity on their part. But for know they are a child and should be treated as such.
ReplyDelete-Will Burch
I agree with what Claudia F. said. Amen girl!
ReplyDelete-Will Burch
I agree with Brittany Levereaux. Kids are not stupid they know if something is wrong or if someone is threatening them. If your child doesn't come to you for help don't bother them.
ReplyDeleteJoshua Xiong
I think that children and teens should not be allowed to see and write anything that they wish. It can make the children and parents very embarrassed from what I have seen. I have secretly recorded keystrokes and sites, it was embarrassing. The children are just that, they are not mature enough to understand things. always crop your pictures when your pictures are online. So no one will want to use your picture. gerald mitchell tucker
ReplyDeleteI do not agree with regina. you have alot of porn and pervents, and people wanting to steal your information. Are you going to leave the issue up to a child or teen to decide what is best. gerald mitchell tucker
ReplyDeleteI do think parents should be aware of who their children are talking to, and what they are posting on social networking sites, however I don't think they should hack into their kids account and make changes without their permission. Parents should warn there kids about online predetors and the other dangers of the internet and trust them to be smart about it. In this world parents have every right to be cautious, and kids and teens should know to be cautious as well.
ReplyDelete-Caroline Springer
I'm a mother of grown children,and I would go to their site right this minute if I thought that they were in trouble of any kind. I have read most of these blogs, and the young students who have no children now should keep a copy of this. Then have a child and pull it out. I bet your answer will be a whole lot different!Yes I agree parents should have control over their childs sites. Carolyn Dunaway
ReplyDeleteI believe parents should be able to view their child's facebook file. If they are ashamed to let their parents in on their personal life, then what exactly are they into anyway? I agree with the right to privacy too, but only when your an adult. All parents should have complete access to their child's personal life/home life. Meagan Allen
ReplyDeleteI agree, but dont agree at the same time. I dont have any kids yet, but when i do, i don't want them on the internet socializing with strangers. So, I would want to know who their talking to, but I wouldn't get on there without there permission.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Caroline. Parents should warn their children about all the predators out there. Anything can happen.
-Tiffany Erow
I do think that parents have a right to check their kids facebook if the child knows the parent is doing it. Where parents take it to far is when they are secretly checking their childs facebook to see what new activity is going on, posts that are being made, and friends requests that are being accepted. Also I think that parents should set rules for who their children can accept as a friend. Personally i do not accept friend request from people who i've never seen or heard about. Parents can tell their kids that they can only accept requests from people that they know from school.
ReplyDelete-Sarah Wohnig
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ReplyDeleteI also agree with Regina. If the parents cannot trust their children on facebook and have to creep around to keep tabs on their child then the child probably should not have a facebook.
ReplyDelete-Sarah Wohnig
I agree with Megan. Parents and children should have an honest relationship. If not, the kids will do what they want and not what they need to.
ReplyDelete-Tiffany Erow
I agree with Caroline. Parents should be allowed to see their kids' facebook pages, but not be able to login to their account. Parents should become 'friends' with their kids on facebook and check up on them that way.
ReplyDelete-Amber Williams
I'm not a parent but I think that parents should make their own facebook and not login to their own childs. But my mama has my password and login, but i don't do anything i shouldn't be doing which is where kids mess up. They post things that shouldn't be and parents become aware and makes them wander what else they have been posting.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Amber and Caroline. A parent should just make their own and become friends with their child.
Ashton Trail :)
I believe that both the parent and the child has rights in this situation. The child should be able to have his or her privacy but a parent should ask the child regularly about what is on their facebook. If the child were to say no then i believe that the parent should just monitor the child not hack into his or her facebook without a big reason.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Amber Caroline and Ashton in that the parent should get their own facebook if they would like to monitor their childs.
Danae
Wishing to protect your child by viewing their facebook page is understandable ,but going on it without permission or their knowledge and changing it based solely on your own opinion will only lead them to not trust you.
ReplyDeleteI agree with Claudia F. Having a trusting relationship with your children is important.
-Thomas W
I think parents should educate their children on the dangers of giving out their information and determining what is good character (i.e. language, comments, and types of pictures posted)before the account is even opened. Parents should keep up with their childs page as they would a favorite friend. This will allow them remain connected (somewhat) to their child and their friends, as well as monitoring for threats or potentially bad computer usage. I do not agree that parents should change or delete things, but it may be a good idea to have passwords on file in case of some emergency. Nor do I think that children (teens) should object to parents having passwords or being a "friend" on their facebook.
ReplyDeleteRenee Foster-
I also agree with Regina. There should be a 'trust' between children and parents before the account is even opened.
ReplyDeleteRenee F.
I think parents today give their kids too many "things" before they're ready for them. What does a child under 16 need with a cell phone? Why do they have to have TV's, computers,etc. in their rooms with no supervision? I believe, most, kids grow up today with the attitude that everyone owes them something because everything was given to them without earning it, when they were younger.(Just my opinion.) So if a child wants a FB page the parent/parents say OK. Why not they already have everything else they asked for.
ReplyDeleteI believe teens do deserve to have a certain amount of privacy to their newly developing lives but I also believe the parents should be talking with their kids to make sure they are not getting into things they should not. Also checking their teens account every once in a while just to make sure they are safe. To many preditors out there.
ReplyDeleteCaroline Creef
I personal think that parents should monitor their teens Facebook accounts to a point when they are not invading the teen’s privacy to much. Parents should monitor their teens account because he/she could be posting explicit content or other information that should not be shared over networking site, which could lead to them being exploited by strangers or worst. Latisha L.
ReplyDeleteIf your 18 years or older I do not think that your parents should worry or have any say over what is on your Facebook profile.
ReplyDeletePaul Wash
I think that teens should have their right to privacy on facebook. Parents should not try to control what their teen does on facebook.
ReplyDeleteJessica Davidson
I think that parents should have some involvement in their kids lifes in person and on the internet. That is the parents job.
ReplyDeleteAnd Jessica, its not control its called looking out for your children. But having completwe control over what is posted and shown I agree with you one hundred percent.
Sean Curran